We can’t improve ourselves, until we do our self-examination first.
We should be aware about our Weaknesses, Distractions, Strengths, Things which we love to do, Fears, Dreams and goals.
I will talk about everything, my weaknesses those I want to cure, my strengths which I am want to keep as it as, my fears, those I want to conquer , and my lovely dreams.
And, yes in next blog posts, we will talk about “Laws of mother nature” and the “law of Attraction” too.
Now, as I have decided that I am going to work on my self-improvement,after decision, the next step for me is to find my weaknesses.
Everyone has weaknesses, so do I, these weaknesses make you vulnerable and sometime its pulls back you from achieving success.
For example, you may want to speak in Public events and want to be a Public Speaker, or you want to be a blogger, but, may be your English is as bad as mine, and due to it you can’t do both of things, nor the blogging and nor the Public Speaking. The lacking of command over “English Language” is stopping you to achieve your goals.
To write and think about my weaknesses, I need to, sit down in a calm and silent place, and need think about my weaknesses deeply and write them down on a paper.
Throughout all of my journey from Day 1 to Day 100, I am going to keep all of my notes in a notebook, I am using fountain Pen, 0.5 Pencil, and notebook, which have had made paper and may be use sketch pen.
I have noted down, few of my weaknesses, they are.
1. English.
a. Verbal Communication {Speaking in English}.
b. Written Communication {Grammatical errors, Punctuations etc.,}
2. Procrastination.
3. Lacking of control on negative thoughts.
4. Bad listener.
a. Sometime Passive Listener.
5. Impatience.
6. Overwhelmed very easily.
7. Not much good in Time Management
So many weaknesses I do have? Isn’t?
Wait !!!!
Read the list above again, with calm mind, these are the very general weaknesses, and most of person whom I do know in my circle, are having these same problems or symptoms of them.
The major and the biggest issue is: They know that they have these weaknesses, but, they don’t know, how to cure them, how to deal with them, and how to take the first step to solve them.
My whole purpose and idea behind these “100 Days of Self Improvement” blog posts are, to prove that, we have to start from somewhere, do and act on them our decisions , and it these weaknesses will be cured.
Let’s discuss weaknesses in details:
1. English:
This is the main issue for those, for whom English is the Second Language, or those who get education from non-English school. My written and verbal communication skill are below average. But I still try to speak in English in my group events and in I write my all blogs in English, but I had never work hard to improve it.
My few good friends, keep discussing the same thing issue me, that, how to improve English. If you are working in MNC’s, those have lots of regional offices, there this weakness pushes you back from talking with your other office colleagues.
2. Procrastination:
Believe me, most of the peoples, do procrastinate in one or another form. What is procrastination? When you do leave your work on another day or another time, and don’t feel to do it now, that is known as Procrastination.
The result of the procrastinations are, “Missing deadlines”, “Over burden in the end of project” and sometimes “ you may be consider as non-reliable person”.
3. Lacking Control on Negative thoughts
This is the biggest enemy of peace of mind and happiness. If you are not able to control negative thought, you can’t be happy.
If we manage to control our thoughts, we can control the world. These negative thought leads to following symptoms , lack of sleep, worrying all the time, not able to do your work properly and whole heartily.
Presently, I don’t know, how I am going to deal with this weakness, but I am confident about, that I will manage to do find some workaround for it, I am geek after all.
4. Bad listener
If you are a good listener, you will grow fast and learn fast. If you are bad listener, you are going to miss to hear about lots of important stuff. I have read somewhere that, there are two types of listener, one is “Active” and another is “Passive”.
The “Passive listener” are the bad one, those are just pretended to listen, but they never care about what the other person is saying.
I want to become an “Active Listener”,So that listen to everyone from open mind, eyes, and heart.
How I am going to be “Active Listener”, I don’t know it Yet.
5. Impatience
Impatience is good and bad too. I (we) need to know, where to use it, and how to use it, sometime, we took some decisions in impatience, and afterwards we repent on them.
I (we) need to control our impatience so that we can take decisions calmly and without any hurry.
6. Overwhelming
It’s kind of same like above, but the difference is, we get emotionally excited very easily and sometime before the things actually happen.
7. Time Management
The person who is able to manage his/her time, is the most successful one. He knows when to give time to his family / friends and work. They are the true time jugglers.
Everyone has 24 Hours, some spent each minute wisely and some spent whole day foolishly.
As for the next 100+ days:
1. I need to write this blog every day,
2. I also need to write a blog on PowerShell
3. My regular office timing
4. Time for the family
5. Reading my MBA books
6. Read my professional books
7. Read one Self-help book
8. And work on my weakness and whatever they required to cure them
All the famous persons, CEOs, Directors of the companies, do more work compare to my above task list, how do they do that? I don’t know, how do they manage time to do all the task?,I don’t know, but if they can, than we can too and we will. But as per now I don’t know how. But I know, I will find it out.
Our next step is to write down our Strengths and the things which we love to do, and we can do this tomorrow.
Let’s be a better person and make a valuable contribution, in our society, our work and in our earth.
Let’s make this earth a better place to live.
Hurdle 1 : Stomach infection and feeling sick.
Hurdle 2 : Electricity is gone in the whole area from past 5 hours and laptop is about to die, only 30% battery in left.
Hurdle 3 : I share this Idea of “100 Days of Self Improvement” , over the phone with my friend, and he said, “It’s not going make any difference”.
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Love and regards
Aman Dhally